“Waahhh, I wish I could draw!” is a lament I’ve heard from mouths across the world.
If YOU have this same complaint, listen now and listen good: You CAN draw, and you can, if you work at it, eventually draw WELL. The only thing that’s stopping you is… practice!
As a teacher, I firmly believe that people aren’t born smart. Rather, people work hard and get smarter and more skilled with practice. So it is for drawing, and so it is for schoolwork, sports, interpersonal relations, traveling, cooking, and beyond!
If you use the phrase, “He’s so smart,” or, “She’s really dumb,” in front of me, I’ll fly into a fury and possibly slap you. The sentence, “I’m bad at that,” will also send me into a rage. Not only are such statements incorrect, but they’re also downright dangerous.
Assertions that cast our intelligence as fixed and unchanging make us give up on ourselves and others.
So you got a terrible grade in Math? You could just call yourself “dumb” and “not smart at Math” and stop trying… but you know perfectly well that isn’t true. You just didn’t do the homework, or just didn’t reach out to another student or the teacher to figure out a confusing concept.
There’s no “smart” and no “dumb.” There are just strategies that work for you and ones that don’t. And if one tactic doesn’t boost your success, there are plenty more that will. Bit by bit, with practice, you’ll build the skills!
How does this apply to traveling? Well, we have these fixed ideas of who we are. We say things like, “I’m someone who could never travel alone,” or, “I’m a homebody.” Actually, you’re not. You’ve not who you think you are. You are not who people say you are. You are whoever and whatever you want to be, as long as you try, and keep practicing! You are free to buy a ticket to a place you’ve never been to and figure out later how you’ll plan. You’re free to ignore your fear and try something new, out of your comfort zone. And I bet you $5 it will end up excellent!
Back to drawing.
You are not “bad at drawing.” You just haven’t tried enough! Me, I can bust out vibrant cartoons and lovely sketched faces in about two seconds because I have drawn about 10 people a day for roughly 28 years. Much practice = extra skill, and having drawing skills has proven super useful, in the classroom, for presents, to help others, and for general entertainment.
So I can draw because I’ve practiced, and I can read and write quite deliciously because I’ve practiced… and I still can’t drive because I have only done it once in nine years! If you call me dumb or smart because of any of these things, it just isn’t accurate, because it’s all in progress!
Now what about YOU? How do the labels of “dumb” or “smart” or “bad at ___” or “not a person who ___” show up in your life, and the lives of people around you?