The liminal space of divorce can be an extremely unsettling time to navigate. It is not uncommon to feel disoriented, as if you’re moving underwater, or the whole world has shifted diagonally and no one else seems to have noticed.
Brain fogs are common, as everything that once was certain falls away, and the juxtaposition between what was and what will be becomes jarring. What’s the best way to make it through these months or years? I’m hoping these 11 divorce stories will help.
What follows are all of my in-depth articles about the many facets of life before, during, and after my 10-year marriage. My relationship has now entered the chapter of divorce and living apart, collaboratively co-parenting our two young children.
Every article here is meant to be both honest, and good-spirited. You will not find negative words about my co-parent in these stores — but you WILL find incredibly practical guides to logistics, self-care, finances, and supporting kids and family cooperation. Here’s to a healthy and happy future!
Here are all of my articles and stories about divorce, with the emotions, logistics, advice, and tips attached to a marriage separation that includes a family with kids.
This script template for telling kids about a divorce was created in partnership with our couples therapist, and was extremely effective in supporting our children in transitioning to this next chapter as a collaborative family in two homes.
We know that divorce is extremely expensive, but did you know there is a very frustrating thing that can happen with your credit cards if you're not careful? Follow this easy tip to avid the mistake that led to me being denied my own account. This lesson is relevant for all married couples, no matter how stable the relationship.
Quitting drinking alcohol was intrumental in being able to clearly see the best path forward for my life at last. Stopping drinking may or may not be of interest to you, but if it is, here are detailed (and sometimes surprising) instructions for how the feat was achievable -- plus honest reflections on why it was so hard.
Along with meditation, healthy eating, and kind friends and family, regular exercise helped me immensely through the emotions of going through a divorce. Here is my long tutorial about how to make workout plans and motivation stick.
Transitioning out of a job that one has had for many years bears some similarities to divorce or separation from a relationship. The fact that I transitioned out of both my career and marriage at the same time was at the same time jarring and healing. Read the reasons for the former here, and reflect on how it resonates with the latter.
A liminal space is that in-between time when you've left one thing and are not yet at the next. Divorce is the epitome of liminality! Reading this article will help you understand the power of these transitional times, as well as their sometimes unsettling nature.
Solo travel can be immensely revitalizing, and may prove a key way to metabolize the changes happening during a separation or divorce. But how is it possible for a mother to travel alone when she has kids -- and how can it be done affordably? This article goes in depth to answer each of those questions.
The author, Lillie Marshall, is 6-foot-tall National Board Certified Teacher of English, fitness fan, and mother of two who has been a public school educator since 2003. She launched Around the World “L” Travel and Life Blog in 2009, and over 4.2 million readers have now visited this site. Lillie also runs TeachingTraveling.com and DrawingsOf.com. Subscribe to her monthly newsletter, and follow @WorldLillie on social media!