This is the last of my four-part series on traveling through Cuba, and in it I will share the shocking moment that revealed the dark side of the country. It all started in the town of Cienfuegos, on the very evening I looked out at the stunning sunset pictured below.
My travel partner, Oliver, and I were staying in a “Casa Particular,” a local Cuban’s home that is permitted by the government to take in travelers. As you can see from the photo above, the house had one of the most beautiful views imaginable.
I had been chatting in Spanish with the woman whose house it was, but seeing that astounding sunset and feeling the warm Cuban breeze, I became filled with emotion — and curiosity.
“Cuba seems like such a wonderful place to live,” I declared, stretching my arms towards the ocean.
The woman looked at me silently. I continued. “You have this gorgeous view of the ocean, deliciously warm weather, and lush nature all around,” I sighed. The woman remained silent.
“Cuba has so much else besides the natural beauty,” I went on. “Your country is known for having an excellent healthcare system and highly trained doctors. Your education system is renowned, too, and your streets are far safer than most places in the world.”

The woman’s expression should have warned me, but I just went right on talking. “I mean, you told us that you regularly let your pre-teen daughter go hang out alone on the waterfront after dark,” I exclaimed, “and that most parents in Cienfuegos do the same because it’s so safe. What a great place for kids and families!”
“Looking at these facts,” I declared, “One could argue that it’s paradise to live in Cuba.”
The woman’s eyes flashed, and suddenly she leaned in close, drawing in a ragged breath.
“Listen,” she whispered urgently to me in Spanish. “You think Cuba is paradise? I would throw this all away in a second for the chance to be free.”
I nodded, listening intently.
“I want to be able to travel,” the woman cried, “and to visit my family in America! I want to earn money, surf the Internet… to have choices and opportunities! This is NOT paradise.”
I will never forget that moment in Cienfuegos, and I hope you will remember it too, when the debates flare up on “whether it’s a good or bad thing” for Cuba to open to the U.S., and for the island’s internal regulations to change.
When that woman shared her secret with me — a secret that many other Cubans I spoke with echoed — thoughts flashed in my mind of an alternate universe in which the woman struggled to survive in a harsh capitalist economy, wishing for the chance to be secure in home, health, education, and safety.
Do humans always want what they don’t have, or do people above all prize choice and freedom? I’m so curious to hear your thoughts after hearing this story. Do share!

The author, Lillie Marshall, is a 6-foot-tall National Board Certified Teacher of English, fitness fan, and mother of two who has been a public school educator since 2003. She launched Around the World “L” Travel and Life Blog in 2009, and over 4.2 million readers have now visited this site. Lillie also runs TeachingTraveling.com and DrawingsOf.com. Subscribe to her monthly newsletter, and follow @WorldLillie on social media!
Molly @ Molly On the Move
Tuesday 24th of February 2015
I think it's definitely easier to look at what others have and idealize it...that's human nature. But I also think it's the choices we make that give our life meaning. That woman doesn't have control of those choices.
It's an interesting quandary for sure. Regardless, I'm glad you had such an eye-opening experience. I'm dying to visit Cuba and this just makes me want to go even more :)
Mary @ Green Global Travel
Tuesday 24th of February 2015
Really makes you appreciate living in a country that provides so many choices. Freedom is a precious thing. Thanks for sharing!
Jasmine
Monday 23rd of February 2015
I like the conversation between you and the lady that you had, but how was the condition in Cuba?
Lillie
Monday 23rd of February 2015
From my point of view, the conditions in Cuba seemed like paradise. The woman, however, had a different point of view, from the inside perspective.
Rahman Mehraby
Thursday 19th of February 2015
I liked your chat with the woman who wanted to live free life. All of us are looking for something that's missing in our lives.
Kendra Granniss
Wednesday 18th of February 2015
Of course people always want what they can't have. But I feel sorry for anyone who does not have the freedom to do what they wish and go where they want to go. It makes me thankful for what I have. I've never been to Cuba, but I definitely want to go. Your pictures are beautiful!