What are you feeling inside about what’s outside right now?
It’s Teacher Appreciation Day and Mother’s Day, and I’ve arisen at 6am to see how far my fingers can fly before feet pound down the stairs. I want to write, but writing takes space and time.
There is time now — but there is not. There’s a fog, and there’s rest without rest. There’s more sleep than there’s been in sixteen years — alarms silenced and dreams descending early — but the waking is… not quite. Yet there’s more waking than ever.
What have you been noticing?
The soup that’s keeping me sane is going inside my body — hypnotizing the self with breath and muscle. I hadn’t breathed a moment to catch it before this… hadn’t pushed into full panting sweat. It’s insane adventure, these inner tubes now laid out which we now need to ride! Breathless breath, climbing to keep up in paths that are both empty and packed.
Our outsides are cut out.
What we’re left in is the pulse of the inner family. We confront and embrace, push and pull… race and collapse. We will remember these touchstone months always — more so because our whole globe has its hand on it. We’re seeing each other and ourselves — not always willingly.
The family is around us, offering welcome hilarity and distraction, then jarring hysteria. The family is inside us, clamoring with voices howling within — sometimes exploding without. Without what? The without is wanting.
What are you actually wanting?
Little footsteps are coming down as I type this now. Our girl bursts into my writing flow with mittens on her feet and socks on her hands: the perfect metaphor for what we’re living in.
The kisses and cuddles are heavenly — but the thread of my adult words yanks taut in my mind, threatening to snap. I had wanted to write, but I also want this love. I grasp my girl tightly and simultaneously grapple to keep the ideas in my brain to keep hope of them touching the page.
Taut… taught… I’m a teacher by profession, used to pulling the threads of purposeful learning tight to twist them into knowledge blankets — discarding those which don’t match. It requires picking exactly which width and hue of myself I wish to weave into the public tapestry, while eliciting proper threads from others in turn.
Now we’re all living inside the %&*@ yarn store, and threads are popping out left and right. My daughter crashed into an online meeting last week, leaping on my lap and yanking down my shirt to reveal not only that I have kids at home, but what color bra I wear. It was fine.
As teaching has moved inside a glowing box of squares, in some ways I feel closer to my students than ever before — tip-tap typing responses to each journal entry late at night in the hidden quiet hours.
Distance learning is not unlike flesh-and-blood teaching in the quest of trying to reach and reach through the murky bog of adolescence, splashing blindly into the water for a hand reaching back.
Sometimes we clasp a child’s hand and can pull — sometimes it pulls us… and sometimes there’s nothing — just the water’s empty laugh. Teaching has always been that: the dangerous, courageous, and miraculous question of who is helping whom in life’s marsh.
Now our families are wallowing inside our deep home marshes, the banks blocking access to shore. We have to confront what the outside allowed avoided. It’s funny how the desire for avoidance is now doubled under lockdown — flailing our hands up towards the shores wildly.
What are ways you’ve stepped out of it all, internally? Externally?
What’s struck me are the moments — the MANY moments — of pausing to look into nothingness. I’ve never let them exist before. They seemed a distraction or waste of time, but golly it’s clear now how necessary they are now. Just staring. Breathing and spinning — allowing time to evaporate into droplets of expanding space… turning into the mist of daydreams. Mist can drift out of the marsh.
What IS a waste of time in all of this?
What IS a distraction? What is the real aim? What is real learning? Mamas and teachers — and so many assorted humans during this — we inhale these questions. You know the answer already, though, don’t you?
Everything starts with the family inside. Oh my veins, oh my thumping heart, oh my muscle — ahh, those stretching fibers and firing neurons. Internal friends, we are beginning to feel you through the haze and see you’re the base of all action. Learning you and strengthening you is not a waste of time… though it does take time.
Pulling away, and pushing in and through…
I have to go off to online teach now: weighing rushing between my classroom screen and setting up my biological children’s teacher-box screens against finishing this article to the level of completion that will provide the release I’ve needed in the full month since I’ve published a word.
In one luscious moment I paused to feel. I’m in a dream of sun-on-face writing bliss and don’t want to pop it. Speaking of popping, I also have an enraged pimple on my face — a gift from long, masked forest walks — that I know students will see.
It is what it is. The internal is processing and purging. The external is pushing in, both walling off and throwing away walls. The mittens are on the feet. We’re learning!
The author, Lillie Marshall, is National Board Certified Teacher, fitness fan, and mother of two who has been a full-time public school educator since 2003. She launched Around the World “L” Travel and Life Blog in 2009, and over 3.7 million readers have visited this site over the decade. Lillie also runs Teaching Traveling Global Education Community and Drawings Of… Educational Cartoon Site. Subscribe to her monthly newsletter, and follow on social media with the links below!